Congratulations. You’re Engaged….Now what?

Congratulations!  You’re Engaged…Now what?

So you’ve finally found the perfect partner, your first mate and companion til the end. The proposal has been and gone the list of mandatory phone calls to friends and family have been made and before twenty four hours has passed you’ve started thinking of the dress, your bridesmaids and where the main event, your wedding ceremony and reception will take place. But before you can say “I do” there are a few things to consider making sure your day goes off without a hitch. I must admit, I had a total brain freeze when my fiancé popped the question, I was just in shock and couldn’t believe it was really happening, thinking where to begin and I help my couples with this every day.

1)     The Magic Number:

Although we have our own order of priority the first thing you really need to think about is who is coming, because the number of people will define the budget, the ceremony venue and the reception venue. You don’t want a venue that doesn’t have enough room for all your guests and on the flip side you don’t want a venue that swallows you congregation. So get out your pen and paper and start counting heads.  We did a rough count and decided that we would have around 40 guests each.

2)     The Date:

So you have counted all your cousins, aunts and uncles and it’s time to approach your suppliers to confirm a date. Nine times out of ten dates are chosen upon availability so if you have a month in mind that will be the best approach. Generally suppliers will take bookings twelve months in advance so keep that in mind. If you have a specific and popular place in mind it’s best to call them as soon as possible.

3)     Order of Importance:

The next question I would ask is what is important to you?

Is it the ceremony venue, the food, the dress or the photography?  The way I personally help my couples is by suggesting they work backwards. Start from the end, after you have your approximate number of guests start with the reception – are you having a sit down dinner or a cocktail event? From my experience, for a sit down dinner the amount per head should be between $100 and $150 per person not including the venue. It’s all about how the package is presented to you. This is where a big part of your budget is going to go. We looked at a place where we could bring in our own caterers which reduced costs and we knew the food would be amazing. Being Italian, it’s all about the food.

4)     The  “I DO’s”

The Ceremony. Where are you going to have it and who is going to marry you? There is a balancing act that is required to co-ordinate each supplier and the quicker you do it the better. One way of saving money is to have an outdoor wedding. You will still need to get approval from the council and there is more freedom when choosing a Celebrant. If this is an option I can help you with outdoor settings as well.

Now it’s time to contact the photographer and florist, find that dress and take the girls shopping for their bridesmaid dresses. Along the way you will find your colour palette the favours and little extra’s to make you wedding day special.

If you have any questions or would like advice on suppliers, feel free to contact me.

I believe to be the best celebrant I can, I must understand the full life cycle of the ceremony world, which is why I perform naming ceremonies, coming of age, weddings, commitment, renewal of vows and funerals.


I live, and celebrate life!

Cassandra Iacono

Wedding and Civil Celebrant

Weddings, Commitment & Naming Ceremonies, Funerals. All of Life’s Celebrations.



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